We, too, have a family business, and believe me, I have done a lot of talking and asking out loud for help when it looks pretty bleak and almost always, with amazing speed, a positive answer comes and we continue to the next turn in the road! There are so many helpers out there!
Now, in setting up your own business, are you taking your energies away from the family business? Is it more needed there?
Last summer, I was setting up my jewellery business AND helping my husband in his business, but it was chaotic. Then, I got a massive facial infection; at the time, I was not paying attention and could not even think what to do when fasting probably would have done the trick early in the game. Anyhow, I went the antibiotic route -- then they told me that they were concerned that it would get to my brain and then I'd have to face meningitis; that news shook me to the core because I realized that in my zeal to get my own business on its feet properly, I nearly killed myself.
Something had to go and that was my business. I have applied myself to my husband's business and it is doing very well, I feel much calmer and feel that we are now doing what we are supposed to be doing after all of these years. (It's a long journey!)
I am in constant communication with the Universe and we get the help that we need. For instance, we were looking for a larger warehouse space. There is a space here in town, but something stopped me from moving forward on it. Then, my husband decided to check on another space which was in a great location near our fabricators, etc. He knew that this space was coming up but had not done anything about it. Well, the day that he phoned about it, he missed getting it by a few minutes!! Yikes! What should we do then? So, I asked for another space like this one, or better.
A couple of hours later we were going to the movies (sneak out on a Friday afternoon!) and we took a short detour hoping to find a space. Well, there was the perfect space in a beautifully clean industrial plaza -- with a super, nicely decorated small office which our son can use for his Sales office. It was nice and bright and clean and just the right size for the next year. We got it and are absolutely thrilled because it is just perfect for its purpose.
So, talk out loud! Someone will help you!
Unless you really need to have your own business right now, perhaps the timing is not right for that and the family business needs your energy more.